20 Jan: My life as a straight male escort

My career as a straight male escort has been many things, but boring and easy are two things it definitely has been not. Calling it a career would be belittling the effort a male escort has to put in, it is more of a constant lifestyle.

For the sake of this story, I am going to adopt the pseudonym of “Tom”.  Always wanted to have a secret life as an author, guess dreams do come true! Anyways I digress from the story at hand, that is what is the life of a male escort like ? Well it is not easy but it’s the best thing I’ve ever done and something I’ll always be greatful for.

I am currently 40 years old. I got in this business in this business almost a decade ago. At that time I was in a relationship, and I will not lie being a full time male escort did not make it easy to do justice to that relationship. The life of a male escort is very busy. I was not a “freelancer” rather I wanted to work for a  professional escort agency so I chose Gentlemen4hire.com.  So let me get some misconceptions out of the way first. Being a male escort does not mean that all I have to do is sleep around with different women. Women hire male escorts for many different reasons excluding sex. In most cases they want someone who will pay undivided attention to them; they want a partner who for at least two hours has no baggage and no thoughts about the potential football match on the telly. All that partner should do is engage in pleasant convo with them. This means that I have spent hours sitting on a balcony, with wine and cheese while having a great conversation. The main skill a male escort needs is one of empathy. I think I have done well in my career is because I am able to in that moment care about their lives and where they have been. My business success relies on repeat business.

When I am not on the job, I am working out and trying to figure out a personal life. I know some men in this business who have solid relationships outside work, however I am not one of them. I am successful in my work, so that means I hardly have time for a relationship. And when I do go into a relationship, I want to be fair to my partner. With often erratic hours, and a gym schedule to keep, a relationship is something which is not possible for me right now. There is a silver lining to this cloud though. I have always been an extrovert, and I do enjoy my job. I have even travelled to a lot of places with clients, which I absolutely loved.

So let’s end this chapter of my story by talking about the biggest elephant in the room. Do I get attached to my clients or vice versa?  There are clients that I have spent considerable amount of time with (while on the job), and there have been times I needed to remind myself that what I do is a job. I am there to provide here comfort and attention for a small time. I do care about them, and their well being and want them to enjoy our time together. And to be frank, no matter what one should not try to pull a fast one over a client. Women are intelligent and do not think a “I love you baby”, will get you any extra hours or such. Women can see through the bullshit. Be open, be caring and be a pro!

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